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Another newbie
Post#1 @
05-19-05
, 12:36 PM
Hi everyone. I'm starting the process of getting an engagement ring, and have been reading up what I can on the web from work, because I am hoping to actually surprise the s.o. after the long time we've been together. This forum has been really helpful, and has provided a lot of insight, so thanks to everyone who has posted in the past. I'm going to apologize in advance that I am going to sign my posts with just a C just to be sure that the S.O. doesn't happen upon any in any googling or other web searches. Who knows, perhaps she reads this forum also? I am going to thank everyone in advance for being so understanding. I sure hope nobody takes offense at my anonymity. C |
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Re: Another newbie
Post#2 @
05-19-05
, 01:12 PM
C you don't have to sign your posts with anything...we will address you as optimist, OK? Welcome to DT, I hope we can help you get an awesome e-ring for your S.O. I saw your other post and there will be some answers to it shortly I'm sure, in the meantime welcome again... Irish |
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Re: Another newbie
Post#3 @
05-19-05
, 04:54 PM
Thanks for the welcome, Irish. I have no doubt that I'll find plenty of help here and I greatly appreciate it. Best, optimist |
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Re: Another newbie
Post#4 @
05-19-05
, 05:40 PM
Oh, sorry WebGal, I wasn't sure whether this section was just a meet and greet or if I could talk specifics here also. I'll put more detail here, but let me know if this isn't the place for that. I am pretty sure (95%ish) that I am planning to do a three stone ring with three round cut blue Gemesis synthetic diamonds. As I understand it, the max size on the center would therefore be <.5 carats, so I was thinking .2 carat for each side. In blue or pink Gemesis only has round cuts as far as I could find out. I'm looking at doing a semi bezel setting (I hope I have that description right) because of my s.o. works in the medical profession and has to wear gloves frequently. My plan was to order the stones loose and then get the setting done somewhat locally (that would enable me to have someone check the stones out, at least a little, at the same time to be sure I am getting what I think I am). Right now I have a question on the appraisals forum that asks about how I would go about getting the loose stones appraised. I'd need the valuation for insurance purposes, I would think, and the seller doesn't by default include an EGL certificate (as I understand it that's the only one available for synthetics) by default for <1 carat stones. I might be better of just getting the ring appraised when it's all done, and just asking the jeweler to check out the stones when I first get them to make sure they are what I ordered. As you can see, I've got a few questions. I've tried searching the forums as best I can, but there's not that much detail on the synthetics (yet?). Oh, just in case someone asks, the s.o. already has an inherited diamond ring so I was hoping to go with the blue synthetics for variety and because they'll suit her blue eyes. Thanks for the welcome, and please let me know if I am asking the wrong questions, asking them in the wrong place, or if I am messing something up! optimist |
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Re: Another newbie
Post#5 @
05-23-05
, 05:32 PM
Does she want a synthetic stone? Does she know it will be synthetic? The reason I am asking is that you will want to get her what she wants. That is a lovely idea for a ring, but will she be O.K. with that? Some women only want a diamond. I understand that blue diamonds are completely out of most people's budget. And the price is right for simulants. Just wondering so we can steer you in the right direction. Good luck! |
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Re: Another newbie
Post#6 @
05-24-05
, 01:36 PM
First, welcome to DT! I think your idea sounds lovely. You mentioned the inherited diamond ring, but I assume she'd be wearing your ring as THE engagement ring. I think buying a colored stone engagement ring is tricky without consulting the lady first. First, I think that it's easier to tire of one color (no matter how lovely) more than a clear stone. Second, with some clothes, it would be difficult to wear. She might wear orange; a blue-stoned ring wouldn't look very good. As someone who's been married for 36 years and never her hubby that she didn't care for engagement ring #1, I am all for men seeking out the wishes of their ladies BEFORE they decide on an engagement ring style. I've told my son the same thing. I'd never tell my hubby--even now--that I didn't want a round stone in white gold. I don't want to hurt his feelings. Many years later, I ended up getting a marquise CZ in yellow gold. He wouldn't even let me take the diamond out of my engagement ring to wear as a pendant, because I'd be "destroying" THE ring. |
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Re: Another newbie
Post#7 @
05-24-05
, 03:44 PM
WELCOME! Also, I like the name "optimist". It's definitely better than "pessimist"....hahahaha. 
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Re: Another newbie
Thanks very much for welcoming me on board iwold, LagunaMom and JMC. lwold, the s.o. has made it clear in the past that she would prefer a synthetic stone. Some friends of ours were getting engaged and forwarded an interesting article to us about synthetics, and we talked about it at the time (this is a while ago now). Right now, however, I think that she's confused about the difference between synthetic diamond and moissanite. I am not sure that I am in the position of trying to educate her on it, however, as I am not sure that I want her to know that I am planning to propose. But LagunaMom raises a good point about perhaps needing to have her more involved in the process. Though I would love to see the look on her face if I were to "pop the question" (she'd be really surprised after the decade or so that we've been together) ring in hand, it may be best if I involve her more in the process of choosing a stone and setting. Unfortunately it spoils some of the fun (I already had a pretty solid idea of when and how I would like to propose), and was pretty certain what I was going to do, but since I don't know whether she'd prefer a synthetic or a sim, and whether she has her heart set on some particular type of stone or ring, it might make sense to take another approach. It doesn't help that I have not seen any blue synthetics in person, so might have a false impression (given by the settings on my monitor) of quite how deep (well, shallow) the colors are. I appreciate the advice. I thought I had my mind made up, for the most part, and just needed to know how to go through the process of getting the ring appraised and all that, but clearly I am going to have to do some more thinking. Thanks! optimist |
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